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If your man jerks off too much  

LakeheadM 41M
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8/5/2010 6:51 pm
If your man jerks off too much


How much is too much?
As far as I know every guy jerks off whether he's single or in a committed relationship. It's really just a matter of how often.

I was in a serious relationship for 5 years with a girl I thought I was going to marry. I loved her more than anything. I was totally satisfied in our relationship. She wasn't, and she ended it because she'd never really been single and thought she should try it before she got old. Broke my heart, but that's another story.

The truth is I jerked off regularly throughout the relationship. I'd use porn, memories, fantasies, and dating websites to get off.

Honestly, we didn't have sex as often as I would have liked, and I did fantasize about other girls, but I never had any desire to leave her to try to get with any of them.

I'd established my jerk off routine a long, long time ago. Like most guys it was my only form of sexual gratification for a long time before I lost my virginity, but even after that it remained my primary means of release. My sexual history is pretty sparse, but I could always rely on my hand to do the job.

I don't know if I should consider myself a sex addict. When I think of some of the things I've done, or decided against doing in favor of jerking off, I feel a bit diseased. I have jerked off with my girlfriend asleep next to me. I've gotten out of bed to jerk off in the bathroom in the middle of the night. I've arrived to work early and jerked off in the bathroom, I've jerked off during my break at work, I've had a few days in my life where I've remained at the computer all day and jerked off multiple times. I've been late for class, work, appointments, dates because of jerking off.

It's sad, and who knows why I turned out this way but if this sounds like your boyfriend, husband or guy your fucking, please don't think you're ever going to break him of the habit.

The hand was there first. It'd be like trying to get some momma's boy to give up his mother for you. The difference is, you might be able to replicate what she does for him, but jerking off and sex are two very different things.

Jerking off is not a substitute for sex. Sex is a cardiovascular workout that, for me at least, is 60% to 80% about giving her a good time, and only 20% to 40% about getting myself off.

Jerking off is 100% about relieving sexual tension and it is highly ritualized. that means it not just about cumming, it's about the whole thing. for me it's about having time to myself, fantasizing about girls I can't have, or weird fetishy things or being the kind of sex partner I could never be.

If i want to jerk off, but you call me up and tell me you want to give me a blow job, I'll take the blowjob, and I'll like it, and I'll blow a nice big load in your mouth because I'd probably already started to work my shaft and now I'm forced to wait for you to show up. But after you go home, I just might jerk off. If I do happen to go right to bed, I'll probably jerk off in the morning.

What I'm trying to get at is, don't feel bad if your guy jerks off. I'm not saying it's normal necessarily, but it's part of who he is, and it's probably not too damaging. If you want to try to reduce his jerking off by having sex with him and giving him more blowjays that's probably a good strategy, but if he's got a routine, and if he's got triggers that make him want to jerk off, like seeing a status update from a girl he had a crush on in highschool, no amount of sex is going to stop him, unless it's immediately available whenever he get the slightest urge.

At least, that's how it is for me.

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