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Not sure what this blog should be about, but it seems like it's mostly about my sexual fantasies and frustrations. Pretty standard fare I think.
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In Toronto until further notice.
Posted:Sep 19, 2010 8:39 pm
Last Updated:Dec 2, 2021 8:33 am

Work ran out, and now I'm back in the GTA until further notice.

Just FYI
Road Trip!
Posted:Sep 7, 2010 3:03 pm
Last Updated:Dec 2, 2021 8:33 am

I'm going to be driving from Thunder Bay to Toronto in a couple of weeks, passing through Wawa, Sault Ste Marie, Sudbury, and more along the way. It would be great if I could hook up here and there along the way, save money on accommodations and have a good time too.

I'm a nice guy with a decent-sized cock and a good attitude. LOVE to make women come and I'm very appreciative when you do the same for me.
Old Flames
Posted:Aug 29, 2010 3:15 pm
Last Updated:Jun 11, 2019 4:14 am

I've only kept in touch with one girl I used to date. Our thing ended because it was never really official anyway (she had a boyfriend) and then she had to move back to the states. I may have an opportunity to go visit her in New York at the end of September, and I really, really want to make it happen. It depends on a few thins, but I emailed her with the possibility of it and asked if she could host me. She said, "yes, yes and YES!!" I hope that means we'll be sharing a bed.

See, we never really consummated the affair. We made out a lot, and had a very hot dry hump one night, but I felt bad about the fact she was cheating on her boyfriend and she had promised her friends she wouldn't sleep with me (damn them). We're both single now and I've never really gotten over her. I find her so beautiful and sweet.

Of course because of the distance there's no way we could date again, so the most I can hope for is that we get to play house for a week, make each other feel good and move on.

What have your experiences been like, hooking up with an old flame, or going back to an ex after several years?
Cock Pictures
Posted:Aug 15, 2010 1:34 pm
Last Updated:Dec 2, 2021 8:33 am
So I finally decided to put a couple of pictures of myself on my profile. It's a tricky thing. I had to ask advice. Of course, due to the nature of this particular dating site I didn't want my face to be my profile pictures, but the only alternative that came to mind was my cock. I am a guy afterall.

I didn't want to have a cock picture as my profile picture. I like my cock, I think it's a good looking cock and I'm proud of its length and girth, but I realize that it generally looks the same as any other cock out there and isn't likely to attract much attention.

So I asked a friend of mine from here what she thought I should do. She suggested a chest picture. Interesting. It hadn't even occurred to me. I'm a skinny guy, and I have a hairy chest, which isn't a combo every woman likes, but maybe that's just the reason I should put up a picture of my chest. That way I won't get rejected once I do send a pic to someone. Smart.

Of course, I also wanted to have a picture of my cock. My friend and I have fucked, so I was comfortable taking her advice. She said I have a nice, thick cock and if I take a photo with my hand around it that'll accentuate that. I hope so.

So now, even though my face isn't showing, it looks like having a picture on my profile was a smart move. Hasn't gotten me laid yet, but I have gotten more views.
If your man jerks off too much
Posted:Aug 5, 2010 6:51 pm
Last Updated:Nov 3, 2010 2:47 pm

How much is too much?
As far as I know every guy jerks off whether he's single or in a committed relationship. It's really just a matter of how often.

I was in a serious relationship for 5 years with a girl I thought I was going to marry. I loved her more than anything. I was totally satisfied in our relationship. She wasn't, and she ended it because she'd never really been single and thought she should try it before she got old. Broke my heart, but that's another story.

The truth is I jerked off regularly throughout the relationship. I'd use porn, memories, fantasies, and dating websites to get off.

Honestly, we didn't have sex as often as I would have liked, and I did fantasize about other girls, but I never had any desire to leave her to try to get with any of them.

I'd established my jerk off routine a long, long time ago. Like most guys it was my only form of sexual gratification for a long time before I lost my virginity, but even after that it remained my primary means of release. My sexual history is pretty sparse, but I could always rely on my hand to do the job.

I don't know if I should consider myself a sex addict. When I think of some of the things I've done, or decided against doing in favor of jerking off, I feel a bit diseased. I have jerked off with my girlfriend asleep next to me. I've gotten out of bed to jerk off in the bathroom in the middle of the night. I've arrived to work early and jerked off in the bathroom, I've jerked off during my break at work, I've had a few days in my life where I've remained at the computer all day and jerked off multiple times. I've been late for class, work, appointments, dates because of jerking off.

It's sad, and who knows why I turned out this way but if this sounds like your boyfriend, husband or guy your fucking, please don't think you're ever going to break him of the habit.

The hand was there first. It'd be like trying to get some momma's boy to give up his mother for you. The difference is, you might be able to replicate what she does for him, but jerking off and sex are two very different things.

Jerking off is not a substitute for sex. Sex is a cardiovascular workout that, for me at least, is 60% to 80% about giving her a good time, and only 20% to 40% about getting myself off.

Jerking off is 100% about relieving sexual tension and it is highly ritualized. that means it not just about cumming, it's about the whole thing. for me it's about having time to myself, fantasizing about girls I can't have, or weird fetishy things or being the kind of sex partner I could never be.

If i want to jerk off, but you call me up and tell me you want to give me a blow job, I'll take the blowjob, and I'll like it, and I'll blow a nice big load in your mouth because I'd probably already started to work my shaft and now I'm forced to wait for you to show up. But after you go home, I just might jerk off. If I do happen to go right to bed, I'll probably jerk off in the morning.

What I'm trying to get at is, don't feel bad if your guy jerks off. I'm not saying it's normal necessarily, but it's part of who he is, and it's probably not too damaging. If you want to try to reduce his jerking off by having sex with him and giving him more blowjays that's probably a good strategy, but if he's got a routine, and if he's got triggers that make him want to jerk off, like seeing a status update from a girl he had a crush on in highschool, no amount of sex is going to stop him, unless it's immediately available whenever he get the slightest urge.

At least, that's how it is for me.
Questionable Ethics
Posted:Jul 24, 2010 11:37 pm
Last Updated:Jul 30, 2010 6:06 pm

A few years ago I was seeing a girl who had a boyfriend. D and I had been going out together off and on for a while and I really liked her but I'd never been able to make a move.

One night we spent hours walking around Toronto together, having a great time. She told me about her boyfriend, and then she told me about this guy at school. This guy clearly had a crazy crush on her and wasn't taking the hint that she wasn't interested. I worried that she was really talking about me.

This guy had apparently gone in for a kiss and caught her unawares, planting one right on her lips. She was not impressed and walked away. This made me more jealous than the knowledge that she had a boyfriend, and at the end of the night I casually asked, "Would it be weird if I kissed you goodnight?".

She said no, it wouldn't be.

So I kissed her, and she seemed to like it, but it was late and I went home. She had emailed me already and said I had the softest lips ever. Nice.

So we saw each other again and again. She spent the night, we made out tons, but...

We never had sex.

It's one of my greatest regrets, not pushing her to have sex, but I didn't want to make her a cheater.

Is that weird?

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